Questions and AnswersCategory: QuestionsMarriage between two Muslims of different Sects-Aqeeda

Need detail and clear answers as there is confusion due to simple allowed or permissible answers between parents and children. especially in the west when both parent work and children are not properly educated in aqeeda and family issues regarding the future of their generations and their aqeeda. they just say it is allowed permissible in Islamic Law. so I can do it. I don’t need permission for marriage islam allows it.

  1. Is it prudent to marry a muslim of different sect or aqeeda?
  2. what about if they want to keep there sect or aqeeda?
  3. what about the future of children?
  4. in the west divorce is common, what happens to the children faith aqeeda if they are raised by the family with different faith.
  5. what is your advice to young people considering marriage. should they prefer their own sect or people of their own aqeeda?

why the jurists don’t mention these obvious issues to guide the young people.
we need full answer for the guidance of our youths

1 Answers
mehdi Staff answered 6 months ago

أعوذ بالله من الشيطان الرجيم

بِسْمِ ٱللَّٰهِ ٱلرَّحْمَٰنِ ٱلرَّحِيمِ

As Salaamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh,

We hope this answer reaches you in good health and Islamic spirit.

Based on your specific question and information provided.

From the Jurisprudence perspective ( The opinion of the Jurists):

The Institution of Marriage is Mubah ( Optional / at your discretion )

The Marriage Contract is Mubah ( Optional / at your discretion ).

From the Fundamental of Faith ( Belief / Aqeeda ) perspective: If you fear for your Aqeeda and for your children Aqeeda. This Marriage is Haram ( Forbidden).

From the Islamic Ethics / Morals perspective: If your parents do not agree and this harms them. You have committed a Major Sin, (Haram). However for a man the Marriage contract is valid.

From the Islamic Law perspective: If you fear for your Islamic acts  and for your children. Meaning you and your children  will not be able to follow the Shia Imami law/fiqh. Marriage is Haram. ( Forbidden).

Regarding the Preferred option: It is a norm to marry within the sect or the people of same aqeeda. Due to risks involved of fear of loosing aqeeda, or people having a change of heart later, or their family pressure on you and your children and freedom to engage in activities related to your aqeeda or any other unforeseen circumstances. If you were to do something outside of the norm or preferred option. You would need to first justify the need to yourself and to your parents. In other words you are asking for an exception, and the burden is on the person looking for an exception to the norm.

Regarding the Emphasis on the obedience to the parents.

The emotional bond between the parents and the children is one of the greatest relationships that sustains the humanity. If they are not respected, honored and shown kindness. If this primary and natural bond is not honored in words and in action. The children’s emotional ties and connection can cease and as a result all secondary social bonds may become trivial and may unravel.

Disrespect can originate from disobedience. One of the Greater Sin is ‘Aqq Al-Walidayn ( Disobedience to Parents ), you can read the Holy Qur’an, the Exegesis / Tafsir and the books written by Islamic Scholars on Islamic Ethics.

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